First of all, welcome to the Refuge. Whether you’re making the jump from lurker to poster or just found us, glad you decided to jump into this crazy place.
I’m generalizing here a bit. The type of club you seem to be looking at typically has a wait list/full roster. Adding a new member means picking someone over someone else. So think of it as an job search & interview - you’ve made your intentions know. Next step has to be asking about what membership options are like at their club, how they got their membership, if there are open spots, etc. Then, once you’ve gotten going in the process - if you have the goods, you have to show it to them.
And by “the goods” I don’t mean the career, finances, sweet car, hot wife, etc. All of those are going to be expected for anyone seriously considering joining. What makes you a cooler dude than the other gui? The gui they want to have hanging out at their sanctuary? For someone to sponsor you to join their club means them putting their reputation on the line, too.
No offense - and it may have just been setting the scene so you didn’t get shit on for your post, but if the quoted block above is how you’re introducing yourself to an entirely new group of people, that can be taken a certain kind of way that might turn people off.